Perfect relationships.

We got a lot of great feedback about our wedding day, but one little detail of our ceremony that got quite a few really positive reactions was the wine and love letter box ritual. This was one ritual I had never heard of before our officiant mentioned it. However, as soon as she explained it to Michael and I, we were sold.

Here's how it works: Prior to the wedding, you gather a strong wooden box, a bottle of wine and two glasses. Then, also before the ceremony, you both sit down separately and write love notes to each other, explaining the feelings on the eve of your wedding day. Each letter then gets sealed in its own envelope. You do not read you beau's letter.

Then, at some point during the ceremony, your officiant explains the process, and the two of you seal the box by taking turns hammering in one nail at a time (what other excuse do you have to use a hammer during your wedding?!) until the box is closed.

You don't open the box until your 10th anniversary (or really whatever anniversary you choose), UNLESS you hit a rough patch in your marriage before then. Either way, on the day that you open the box, you both read the letters and drink the wine, remembering how you both felt just days before your wedding day. 

 -via Nicole at theplungeproject.com

This post was actually inspired by American Sitcoms. I'm a huge fan of American Sitcoms. The Big Bang Theory, Two and A Half Men, How I Met Your Mother, and recently, Friends. They're all really great, and I always have so much to think about after watching them.

I've been single for my entire life, so I have no clue what it's like to be in a relationship. And I always have the same question in mind, why does a couple fight? Okay, maybe once every three months or so might be a reasonable amount to me. But as far as the people around me are concerned, couples fight CONSTANTLY. Over the littlest thing, they squabble. It's hurting no one but themselves, and why go through that?

It might sound really dumb, but can't they do this: Think of the past when your other half was the person of your dreams. Now that you have them, you take them for granted. I say, hold them tight and never let them go. They were your stars, before you two got together, they were the best thing that you could ever get. 


I've always thought of my future relationship to be a, call me delusional, 'quarrel-free' one. Because I'm a thinker, and I always think of what happens before, during and after a particular moment. It's the ego that holds all of us back. Don't you agree? I say, bear no grudges in a relationship, and always think of the reasons why you fell in love with your other half. Be forgiving, and be honest. Oh, and don't do stupid things, because.. duh! it's a STUPID thing.

I leave you with a HILARIOUS video of Barberella interviewing Rihanna. And a new word I learned the other day.



- Grotesquely:
1.Characterized by ludicrous or incongruous distortion, as of appearance or manner.
2. Outlandish or bizarre, as in character or appearance.
Use it in a sentence (Phoebe Buffay in Friends Season 3 Episode 10): Their corpses grotesquely dressed in like tinsel and twinkle lights(Referring to Christmas trees). 
Source: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/grotesquely

Next time you can go up to a person with too much make up, and say "Hey, your face is grotesquely made up with layers of pink and purple powder.".

Significance

If you could save the lives ,of say 1000 people, by losing your own life, would you do it?

Maybe it's some psychology stuffs about wanting to be a hero, but I would. I mean, my life is quite worthless if you ask me, so why not use it to do something that would benefit some many other people.
I've always wanted to do something that I feel would make my parents be proud of me. But I've never had the chance. (PS: this is the only part that is related to the title)

Anyways, on an unrelated note, I've started reading books. It's been years since I last read a proper book, let alone finish it. I bought two books on Thursday and I finished the first one yesterday. That's right, one day! Personal best.

Great books! In my opinion, A Simple Act of Gratitude teaches people to find things, no matter how insignificant it may seem to you, and be grateful about it. Shit My Dad Says is more about feeling confident in what you're doing. Because, quoted from the book, "No one wants to lay a guy who wouldn't lay himself". 

Lastly, check my other blog out. Since I've deactivated my Twitter and Facebook, I needed a space to express my everyday thoughts and feelings. Www.gonearetheedges.blogspot.com

Social Network?

Interesting article. Really.
However, you might need to rest your eyes for a few minutes after reading the whole thing. It's a little strenuous.

It really struck me about how much we rely on the internet to communicate and do stuffs that really has no meaning at all. It made me take notice of how people are constantly looking at their phone's screens and not really giving a care about what is going on around them.
I know that I'm currently using the internet to express my feelings about the negative impact the internet has on our generation, but I've tweaked some bad little habits of mine regarding my reliance on my phone to get me through my average day.

Usually, I would whip out my phone with no intention or purpose. I would stare blankly at the screen and open up a few applications trying to find something to do. Isn't that what everyone does? Look at their phones in awkward situations?

I've changed. I leave my phone at home when I leave my home to meet my friends for a short while. 

Note: I used to bring my phone out everywhere I go.

I've also learnt to abstain myself from taking out my phone unnecessarily, which means I must learnt to deal with awkward situations without the help of my phone. 

And I realized that it's better without my phone, as a hindrance or a distraction, when I'm out and I know that I will not be using it for any important reasons. Because there are so many other things to look at.

Have you heard, or read, that we can't see stars in the city because of all the lights surrounding us? Well, I'm glad I don't live in the city because I just saw the most amazing night view. It was literally filled with shining stars and all of them were beautiful. 

Isn't it beautiful?

Camp with me under the stars.

Give it a shot, live without your phone for a day. It might just turn out to be a turning point of your life.

When plans and promises mean nothing.

Just a story of a lady ditched on her wedding day.

Left to face the world alone. One can only imagine how distraught she must have felt. It's a good thing she stood up and found love again.